Overcoming Self-Sabotage by Using Positive Self-Talk

April 16, 2018



Sometimes, we are our own worst enemy when we demean ourselves with negative self-talk and self-doubts. It’s high time to stop being so destructive to ourselves. We deserve so much better!


While you may have tried positive self-talk and affirmations before, perhaps you didn’t have the success you wanted. There could be several reasons for that. For affirmations to work, they must be specific to you and they must be said with conviction - it can't be a matter of just repeating a phrase over and over.


Allow affirmations the chance to work; stand in front of the mirror and state your affirmation with serious intent. You will see a major difference when you apply this simple technique.


Positive self-talk is different. In using positive self-talk, you need to do an assessment. Listen to yourself throughout the day and when you are making negative statements, pause and write them down.

For example, when you hear yourself say, “ah, there is no way. I can’t do this. It’s too hard,” quickly write that down in a notebook.


Now re-write that mental story. There are many ways you could re-write this sentence in your very own positive self-talk, that reflects your personal situation. For example, you could perhaps write

 “Ah, this interesting, it’s not working yet, I am positive that I can find a way to make it work and make it fun.”

This is just an example - the critical part is to make your positive self-talk relevant to you!


As you work your way through identifying negative talk and replacing it with positive self-talk, an effective strategy is to 'install an anchor'. An anchor is part of creating a new internal language. Pick an anchor that suits your daily situation. For example,  when you hear the negative self-talk, mentally tell yourself to stop and then install a positive anchor.


For instance, one anchor could be putting your thumb against the pad of your baby finger and applying pressure. Repeating this and then saying something positive, will cause you to stop the negative script immediately and replace it with a positive. Installing an anchor gives signals to our brains to pay attention!


Invite yourself to try this strategy, be consistent, and see how it unfolds for you!


Always remember - You Matter!!



Are you ready to create a new normal for yourself? Begin here





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