Are you tired of letting others take advantage of you? Maybe you are feeling irritated, but don’t say anything – and the anger and frustration build to a boiling point.
If you’re passive that anger and frustration never escape your body and may cause health problems. If you’re reactive, the anger and frustration may also lead to health problems and other challenges.
You have it in you to become more assertive and speak up for yourself!
Become an Advocate for You!
The first step in becoming more assertive is to decide to become your own advocate. That means you have to assert with those who disrespect you.
It’s sometimes scary to stand up for yourself – especially when you’re feeling afraid. Even though it can sometimes be a challenge, having your own back will make you feel happier and help you live life on your own terms.
There are three main ingredients to developing assertiveness skills and becoming your own advocate:
Know what you want.
Believe that it’s your right to be treated with respect.
Express yourself with courage and determination.
Learning to say “no” is one of the hardest things to overcome when asserting yourself effectively. Friends and family, spouses and your job may have taken advantage of you for years and you’ve been trained to say “yes” to every request, even though it may mean you’re overworked and under-appreciated.
When you become an advocate for yourself, you’re actually befriending yourself and when you become your own best friend, you’ll be able to stick to your beliefs and values because you don’t want to let yourself down.
When you break the patterns of passiveness, you’ll be amazed at the new sense of freedom and the positive outcomes you’ll gain when you stick up for yourself in a healthy manner.
Becoming assertive in your personal and working life is the most important tool you can cultivate for your ultimate success. It’s the ability to state your wants and needs clearly with calmness and kindness. Learn to become assertive – and love the freedom and self-confidence it brings to your life.